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Friday, August 10, 2018

Why not a habit?


One of the questions that I am asked is “Why don’t the sisters wear a habit?”  Most often, the inquirer will point to the fact that other professionals, such as priests and doctors, wear
 clothing that indicates their status.  If you have been wondering the same thing, here are a couple of thoughts for your consideration.



When you meet a doctor who is wearing a lab coat or a priest who is wearing a collar or a sister who is wearing a habit, does it alter the way you interact with them or do you treat them the same way that you treat others?  Most people do not see themselves as equal to these professionals.  We treat them with deference.  For many religious, the decision not to wear a habit stems from the fact that they want to have a more "real" relationship with the people whom they serve.  Pope Francis is quoted as saying, "Shepherds should smell like their sheep."  In a way, a habit prevents that from happening.  For instance, when a woman is seeing a sister for spiritual direction, a habit may act as a barrier.  She might be too embarrassed or ashamed to speak openly about parts of her life that she thinks are too earthy, such as sexual relationships, pregnancy before marriage, or birth control. She may find it hard to believe that a sister would understand or have experience with anything sexual.  Also, if the sister is wearing regular clothing, it helps to convey the important truth that the woman who has come for spiritual direction is capable of the same spiritual depth as the sister.  It is one's prayer life that makes one holy, not the clothing one wears.



It is also important to remember that being a religious sister is a vocation, not a profession.  It is more comparable to being a married woman than it is to being a doctor.  Would you expect married women to wear some particular item of clothing?  The married woman makes her vocation evident through the ring she wears.  Religious sisters also wear a ring.  Additionally, those who are not in habit wear a necklace or pin with the insignia of their order.



Remember too that we are all called to live holy lives and to serve others.  Vocation is about the context in which we do that and the limitations and benefits our vocation places on us.  A married woman has the same "duty" to pray, serve, and aspire to holiness as a religious sister, but her family must come before others.  Clearly, the married woman does not have the same freedom to relocate or to make herself available to others.  A religious sister has those freedoms.  She is able to pursue additional education wherever it is offered and is able to go on week-long, or even month-long, retreats without worrying about how the others she lives with will get along in her absence, whereas the married woman would need to consider who would care for her children, cook, etc.


1 comment:

  1. Very interesting! As an Associate of an order that wears veils, I've never felt that the veil altered the way that I interact with any of the sisters. But I can see your reasoning and I guess it just proves your point that it really doesn't matter what you wear.

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